Meghan Buell founder of T.R.E.E.S. and columnist for OUT in Michigan City Photo: Facebook

Let’s talk about time. More specifically, anniversaries. January 20th is one of my anniversaries. However, prior to this date becoming significant for me, it was just a date on the calendar. But, now this date holds as much, if not more significance as any other date on the calendar. See, on January 20, 2009, I became complete. It was the date of my gender confirming surgery. This past weekend I celebrated my 10 year anniversary of this date.

To think that I am 10 years past my surgery date is a bit surreal for me. I am still processing what this means in the big picture of the overall journey. To be honest, thinking that I could be 10 years beyond an event that I had for a long time given 0% chance of ever happening may be what I am having trouble processing. My journey had a lot of ups and downs but it really wasn’t until the 41st or 42nd year that the idea of having surgery became possible. For the longest time it was just this idea that was fleeting as I considered all that I would have to sacrifice in order to get that. It was always the piece of fruit so high up on the tree that it was unimaginable to think I could reach it. But, I Did!

As I’m writing this I can’t help but think of those in my circumstance who are still seeing the piece of fruit as too high up, too far away to be reachable. I’m here to tell you that it may seem that way now but don’t ever give up on it. Don’t lose focus on it. Wait for that moment when the pathway up those branches becomes clear and then climb. Do so because that piece of fruit for me has been more satisfying as any other piece of fruit I’ve ever tasted. It is worth the wait.

10 years, I welcome you as an anniversary. I look forward to 11 and 12 and all of the others that will follow. January 20th is not just a day on the calendar for me. What will become your date? Peace.

1 thought on “Anniversary

  1. Meghan, I am just so proud to know you! When we first met, I knew very little about the transgender nature of gender. Since that time, I’ve learned SO much about that letter of our “alphabet.” You make it so easy to know you, you are a lovely soft-spoken woman who just has a way about yourself that is engaging. I seldom think of you as “trans” and often just consider you one of the women I know (in the same way I know many of my other transgender friends…). Seeing your background and reading your posts about your travels to conferences, it just is good to know that you are putting yourself out there to help people understand what all of us know already: People who are transgender — are people first and foremost. I can’t think of a better person for the job.

    Love ya lots!!

    Gail B

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