Anniversary

Let’s talk about time. More specifically, anniversaries. January 20th is one of my anniversaries. However, prior to this date becoming significant for me, it was just a date on the calendar. But, now this date holds as much, if not more significance as any other date on the calendar. See, on January 20, 2009, I became complete. It was the date of my gender confirming surgery. This past weekend I celebrated my 10 year anniversary of this date.

To think that I am 10 years past my surgery date is a bit surreal for me. I am still processing what this means in the big picture of the overall journey. To be honest, thinking that I could be 10 years beyond an event that I had for a long time given 0% chance of ever happening may be what I am having trouble processing. My journey had a lot of ups and downs but it really wasn’t until the 41st or 42nd year that the idea of having surgery became possible. For the longest time it was just this idea that was fleeting as I considered all that I would have to sacrifice in order to get that. It was always the piece of fruit so high up on the tree that it was unimaginable to think I could reach it. But, I Did!

As I’m writing this I can’t help but think of those in my circumstance who are still seeing the piece of fruit as too high up, too far away to be reachable. I’m here to tell you that it may seem that way now but don’t ever give up on it. Don’t lose focus on it. Wait for that moment when the pathway up those branches becomes clear and then climb. Do so because that piece of fruit for me has been more satisfying as any other piece of fruit I’ve ever tasted. It is worth the wait.

10 years, I welcome you as an anniversary. I look forward to 11 and 12 and all of the others that will follow. January 20th is not just a day on the calendar for me. What will become your date? Peace.

Author: Meghan Buell

Meghan Buell is the founder of board president to TREES, Inc., a transgender-specific educational nonprofit. She is a leader in the transgender community locally, regionally and nationally. In addition to her work with her organization, Meghan guest lectures at colleges and presents at conferences around the country. She also served for five years on the Transgender Advisory Committee for OUT & Equal Workplace Advocates, a worldwide LGBTQ workplace diversity organization. Her background is in planning & community development, nonprofit management and fundraising along with business management. Some of the organizations with which Meghan has done transgender awareness training are BP, Caterpillar, YMCA and Whirlpool. Megan is an out and proud transgender woman who was born and raised in Northwest Indiana.

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